Sunday, February 28, 2010

If i call you my friend...

...then you are really one and cherished and valuable to me, I'd never call you my friend if you weren't. You are allowed to not be perfect but if you are crooked and cunning, we won't be friends. i wrote a nice post on issues i had been having and what it meant to be a friend; been having issues and after reading neefemi's blog post and leggy's blog post, i decided I'd just about write it again, even though i may still put that one up.

Being a follower of Christ and someone who likes to pride myself in doing the word, i had to resolve what malice was and what 'putting someone between a rock and a hard place was'.
I have been in this position before, the one where every one crucifies you on the testimony (you could also cal it gossip) of another. I have always come out on top and i am sure this time would be no different, it's just the time i have to wait.
This time though, i was less bothered about the folks involved and more bothered about if God was pleased with me.

There's this chic in my office (i have been in my office for about three years)who's never wanted to be my friend or anything and suddenly, she is my newest best friend ( me, i know how to resist those things nah, i wasn't a correct lag chic for nothing). I was suspicious (as usual, lol) and i wondered what she wanted.

Anytime she spoke to me, i wondered (chic, what's with the over friendliness, i hope you know we can't be friends; especially not after the condemnation sessions). she does not know how long suffering i can be. i shunned her anyway (without being too nasty sha)n of course fell into her trap, she went about telling folks (her strength) what i did and i know she's silently seething (i could not care less).

anyhow sha, i will wait it out. How do i justify not being friends with her? i have searched the bible thoroughly and it says somewhere that Jesus did not pretend that the pharisees were his friends, he called them 'brood of vipers', he never acted, he never pretended, he called them what they were.

So this is my statement, when you know someone does not like you (nothing wrong with saying hi) don't just think they are your friends (That is o so stupid, i think lol) and i may be naive (not street smart at all, it makes me weep sometimes) but i am not stupid and i will not pretend so if she wants to imagine i am keeping malice with her, she is welcome to imagine whatever she wants but God is not mocked and he rules in the affairs of men.

I want to guard my heart cos that is where i produce life from but i wonder why these pharisees and Sadducees won't leave me alone, believe whatever you want, i don't care any longer, all i care about is making sure my relationship with God is salvaged, i receive revelation knowledge on how to deal with this (big headache).

Would you want to be friends with someone who secretly wishes you dead and who talks bad about you behind your back but smiles in your front and always wants to buy you something or the other? Now be honest!

To be frank, i would not be friends with you if i knew you gossiped or were not loyal or were scum enough to do something underhanded to get your way and then want to be friends after getting your way? How stupid do you think i am? don't answer!

I just can't pretend like that, if that was the friendship between David and Jonathan, the bible would have said. I always want true friendship and i am grateful for the friends God has given me who can be real with me and truly be my friends, if you are not my friend, it all good too, just don't try to cosy up to me...

I think i have finished the rant if that's what it was.


  1. No. I cnt b friendz wit sum1 who runs me down behind my bk bt be sure nt to get away wit it cz i must shame ur ass in such a way tat u'l wear a mask 4 a lng time or skip town. I knw hw to make pple uncomfortable o.

  2. Tisha
    Nice to have you join iPray. It was such a blessing. I'd like to stay in touch with all who participated, so I'm joining your place here today.

    I like what you had to say about friendship. It sounds familiar!! I'm proud of you that your relationship with Christ is #1. it is hard to live a Christ-like life-style when we are in the world everyday, but that's what He called us to.. May God bless you for your strong stance and grace you with many worthy friendships!!

    Patrina <")>><
    His watchman on the wall

  3. lifes too short to leave with haters around......

  4. @fragile looks
    I am glad you think so, i thought i was the only on in the world who thought like this.

    I am glad to have you here. meen! i have to say its really hard especially when you want to give a knuckle sandwich instead of be kind, it just makes me so unlike me!

    I would say its too short for me to be friends with haters, its just like killing my spirit.

  5. A good friend sticks closer than a brother.

    Happy new month.

  6. I believe one should surround one's self with people who build them up and not those who tear them down.

    A good friend can help point out your weak points without necessarily putting you down and definitely not behind your back.

    Be extra careful with this lady in question.

  7. Malice was once something I felt proud to have. I thot it made me hardcore...Not it's something I can't stand and I thank God for it!


  8. @dammy
    Thanks for your description of a friend, i share the same views.

    yes o, i am surrounded by people who build me up spiritually and otherwise. I can't be friends with the one who break me down no matter what.

    @bob ij
    You sound judgmental, i can't be unwise enough to let someone i know does not think of good towards me come into my inner circle. but of course i choose to walk by the wisdom of God because different stuff is going on in my work environment again!

  9. Tisha,

    Thanks for visiting the Bridge and joining with me in 'Godly friendship'. Yes, I say 'yes' to friendship! I joined your sight on the last day of iPray - because I desired to stay in touch with all of His participants in that. Together - we are the daughter's and the son's of The Most HIgh King.

    Keep praying and praising Jesus - Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness - that the enemy might flee. Remeber the sory of King Saul who was plagued with the spirit of heaviness and they called for a harp? David came and played the harp and the enemy had to flee and Saul was refreshed and made well. Now, the spirit kept comning back - but Saul knew what to do when it did!! Remember the power of praise.

    This story is found in 1 Sam 16. The whole chapter gives context - but particularly vs 10-23 speaks of what I write. I pray that you will allow me to copy it here in my comment - so that it is before you, at a glance:

    "10 Jesse presented his seven sons to Samuel. Samuel was blunt with Jesse, "God hasn't chosen any of these."

    11 Then he asked Jesse, "Is this it? Are there no more sons?"

    "Well, yes, there's the runt. But he's out tending the sheep."

    Samuel ordered Jesse, "Go get him. We're not moving from this spot until he's here."

    12 Jesse sent for him. He was brought in, the very picture of health— bright-eyed, good-looking.

    God said, "Up on your feet! Anoint him! This is the one."

    13 Samuel took his flask of oil and anointed him, with his brothers standing around watching. The Spirit of God entered David like a rush of wind, God vitally empowering him for the rest of his life.

    Samuel left and went home to Ramah.

    David—An Excellent Musician

    14 At that very moment the Spirit of God left Saul and in its place a black mood sent by God settled on him. He was terrified.

    15-16 Saul's advisors said, "This awful tormenting depression from God is making your life miserable. O Master, let us help. Let us look for someone who can play the harp. When the black mood from God moves in, he'll play his music and you'll feel better."

    17 Saul told his servants, "Go ahead. Find me someone who can play well and bring him to me."

    18 One of the young men spoke up, "I know someone. I've seen him myself: the son of Jesse of Bethlehem, an excellent musician. He's also courageous, of age, well-spoken, and good-looking. And God is with him."

    19 So Saul sent messengers to Jesse requesting, "Send your son David to me, the one who tends the sheep."

    20-21 Jesse took a donkey, loaded it with a couple of loaves of bread, a flask of wine, and a young goat, and sent his son David with it to Saul. David came to Saul and stood before him. Saul liked him immediately and made him his right-hand man.

    22 Saul sent word back to Jesse: "Thank you. David will stay here. He's just the one I was looking for. I'm very impressed by him."

    23 After that, whenever the bad depression from God tormented Saul, David got out his harp and played. That would calm Saul down, and he would feel better as the moodiness lifted." ( The Message)

    When I was in your situation in the work world - I was the hub of the front desk. So I couls choose the music that was played!! I played only christain music and many times - I played the harp music. It kept my mind stayed on God rather than the situation behind me and around me. Powerful weapon - if you are in a place to use it.

    May you be anointed - like David to bring about needed change to this oppresed environment at work. I will be praying for you in this regard.

    Keep growing closer to Jesus!

    Patrina <")>><
    His watchman on the wall

  10. "May you be anointed - like David to bring about needed change to this oppresed environment at work".

    Thanks so much Patrina, i am concentrating on being a light in my environment instead of complaining.


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